For hundreds of years the male orgasm has been researched and studied but it was only in that the US National Institutes of Health only set up a programme to research vaginal health. The NHS defines an orgasm as a feeling of intense pleasure that happens during sexual activity. The general term applied to those who have difficulty reaching orgasm is anorgasmia. The Independent spoke to a gynaecologist and a psychosexual therapist to uncover the seven reasons why women may not reach orgasm — and how to combat them. Too much alcohol can impact the blood flow to your clitoris, which is, for most women, the part of the vulva that requires stimulation in order to reach orgasm, explains Dr Shree Datta, a gynaecologist for Intima. Being able to tell your partner what you want and how you like it is integral to good sex and reaching orgasm, notes Kate Moyle, psychosexual therapist for Lelo.
I'm 45 years old, but I didn't have my first orgasm until three years ago. It wasn't for lack of trying, either. I was 19 when I lost my virginity. It was the guy's first time, too, and afterward, I couldn't help but think, "This is sex? What a disappointment. I fooled around with a couple of other guys and had sex with another, but it did nothing for me. I came away from sleeping with that second guy saying, "I'm not doing this again; I'm saving myself for my husband.
I’ve Never Had an Orgasm — Is Something Wrong With Me?
If you just can't orgasm for whatever reason, you're not alone. That's a discrepancy some call the orgasm gap. As common as it may be, women who struggle to climax tend to keep quiet about it.
Error: This is required. Error: Not a valid value. It's not uncommon for a woman to never have experienced an orgasm during sexual activity. It is common for women not to have orgasms. This does not mean they do not have a satisfying sex life.