I'm a single mom and had been out of the dating scene since my youngest now 10 was born. I recently became involved with a man that introduced me to fisting. I have to admit, though, albeit strange and new, it was more pleasurable than his penis. I reached a more intense orgasm with his fist. Two-part question: Is fisting common or new? And why does he get mad at me after I've had a fist orgasm?
To fist or not to fist | Savage Love | Chicago Reader
Fisting , handballing , fist-fucking , brachiovaginal , or brachioproctic insertion  is a sexual activity that involves inserting a hand into the vagina or rectum. Fisting may be performed without a partner, but it is most often a partnered activity. Fisting's emergence as a popular sexual practice is commonly attributed to gay male culture and it may not have existed until the twentieth century. In the s, it was assumed that unprotected fisting—which often produces small injuries to the anus, permitting microorganisms access to the blood—was an easy route for transmission of HIV. This, combined with sexual squeamishness towards the public fisting culture in gay establishments of San Francisco, led gay writer Randy Shilts to successfully campaign for the closure of venues, such as gay bathhouses and sex clubs, that openly permitted it.
Sign up for our newsletters Subscribe. Q: My roommate is a gay man who is into getting fisted. A lot. We were FWBs until he moved into my place, at which point we agreed it would be better for us to not have sex anymore. It's worked out fine, and he's been here for a year.
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